Bedrest is for the birds!

My doctor told me at my 36 week appointment on Monday that my baby seems to be measuring “small for dates” and asks me to schedule an ultra-sound to check on his size and development.  After she gives me this news, she decides to engage me in small chat about how Mark Zuckerberg, creator of Facebook, is ruining our youth by creating a social platform in which they no longer need to communicate face to face with people.  Okay Dr. S…we can talk about the societal impact of social media on our youth another time.  I just want to know that my baby is okay. Thanks.

The earliest appointment I was able to schedule was three hours later, during which time I was the calmest I’ve ever been (note the sarcasm). Thankfully, my mom happened to plan a spontaneous visit down to Dorchester that day, so she was a comforting distraction while I waited for Greg to pick me up to head back to the hospital for the scan.

The best part of the day was the ultra-sound, because it was the first time in weeks that we got to see our little guy!  The technician took a whole bunch of measurements to estimate his weight and to estimate the level of amniotic fluid.  After the scan was complete, Greg and I were asked to return to  my doctor’s office to discuss the results.  Once again my nerves settled back in, and my thoughts wandered and worried.  Surely something on the scan must have triggered them to want to talk to us right way?!

Dr. S said that the scan confirmed that the baby is “small for dates” measuring in the 8th percentile for his gestational age.  Here is a quick summary of what she told us:

Ultra-Sound results:
– Estimated to weigh about 4 lb 9 oz, and “should” weigh about a pound more than that at 36 weeks.
– Amniotic fluid levels are low/normal which is a safe level, but “could” indicate blood flow issues if it gets even lower.
– Scored 8/8 on biophysical profile, which means all organs are working properly and there are no blockages.

Dr. S suggested that since I’m a small person, the baby could just be small, and that’s perfectly fine.  However, they want to monitor his measurements and my amniotic fluid level on a weekly basis.  As such, I’ll be getting an ultra-sound and a non-stress test every Monday.  If my amniotic fluid levels get even lower, they will discuss inducing me, but she assured me that this would only be her recommendation if the baby’s safety was in question.  In order to help my fluid levels to increase, she said to lay on my side as much as possible to increase blood flow.

How do I feel about all of this?  Based on the results that Dr. S shared with us, it seems to me that our baby is perfectly healthy.  Research also shows that ultra sounds are not entirely accurate when it comes to estimating measurements and amniotic fluid levels.  Imagine looking up into the bottom of a clear tub full of water and trying to measure how much water is in that tub.  Kind of tough, right?

What is my biggest fear?  I really do not want to be induced.  Especially since I don’t entirely trust the reason that they would be giving me an induction.  If the doctors say that I need to be induced to ensure the safety of our baby then of course I will do it.  It’s just that I’m planning on having a natural childbirth without any medical interventions, so Pitocin (the drug used to induce) would definitely put a hitch in that plan.

So I’d like to ask a favor from you all!  Please keep me and baby Cole in thoughts and prayers and think positive thoughts about the results from our scan on Monday. In the meantime, I will be in bed resting up and drinking a lot of fluids.  As I’ve mentioned in a previous blog post, being this still is not in my nature, but I will do anything to keep our little angel safe!

Finally, for your viewing pleasure, I’ve posted a picture below from the ultra sound.  Next to the ultra sound photo is a picture of Greg when he was 2 months old.  See the resemblance?  I do!  I keep closing my eyes and thinking about the moment I will reach out my arms and hold Cole for the first time.  We are so close 🙂

Showered with love, baby!

An afternoon shared with family and friends dedicated to showering my baby boy with gifts of love.  What could be better than that for a first time mom-to-be?!

Greg dropped me off at the clubhouse and quickly fled the scene to avoid the estrogen that had already filled the atmosphere.  Walking into the room I was greeted by all of the best ladies in my life.  Each table I visited greeted me with hugs, kisses, well wishes…and of course belly rubs!  My mom invited some of the guests to bring a balloon in the color that reminded them of me.  There were a variety of colors, but I noticed quite a few yellows and greens in there!

The food spread had all of my favorite things: macaroni and cheese, meatballs, deli sandwiches, fruit with homemade whipped cream…YUM!  And just to left of all of this marvelous food was a champagne fountain for Mimosas!  Clearly not for me, but everyone else was definitely enjoying it!  The final tally?  16 bottles of champagne…I wouldn’t expect anything less from this group of gals 🙂

After the feast, my mom made a beautiful toast.  She described how she felt when she had me as “bursting with love” and I can’t wait to be able to relate to that feeling when Cole arrives.  My mom said that each generation has the opportunity to be a better mom than their mom was, but I’m really not sure that is possible in my case.  My mom has always supported me and loved me and shown me what it means to be a confident, capable, caring woman.  She even got her Reiki certification to help me during labor!  She is going to be an amazing grandmother (Mima)  – Cole will adore her.  Mom closed her speech by toasting all of the women in the room who recently had a baby, or are pregnant – there were quite a few in the room! 

There were presents…and there was baby shower Bingo!

The cake was adorned with forest friends and made with whipped cream frosting (my favorite!).  It was so cute and delicious!

Thank you to everyone who joined us on Saturday to celebrate our baby boy!  And a special thanks to the amazing party planners: My mom, mother-in-law, and sister-in-laws (Mom, Dennise, Missy and Toni).  You created such a special day for me, and I will never forget it.  Cole is blessed to have such loving and enthusiastic grandmothers and aunties!